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San Francisco pilot · now accepting applications

Find your partner. Start your family.

Nestmate is matchmaking for single adults in San Francisco who want to get married and have children. We match you by hand, on the values that matter most when raising kids together.

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How it works

  1. Apply. Answer a short set of screening questions about you, your timeline, and your child-rearing values.
  2. Get verified. We contact you to verify your identity (government ID + selfie, via Stripe Identity) and run a background check before any match.
  3. Get matched by a person. No swiping. We introduce you to someone whose family values line up with yours.
  4. Have a call. We book a phone or video call for you both. Phone numbers are masked, so your number stays private.
  5. Decide together. If you both want to talk again, we book a second call. If either of you passes, you won't be re-matched.

Clear intentions

Everyone here wants marriage and children. No guessing.

Values first

Faith, education, discipline, parenting roles, work and childcare, where to raise kids.

Safety built in

ID verification and background checks for every member before matching.

Membership

One-time initiation fee, no subscriptions. Details are shared once your application is reviewed.

Apply to join the SF pilot

The application takes about 5 minutes.

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Your privacy: Your answers are used only to screen and match you. Your profile is never public and never sold. Identity checks are handled by Stripe; we receive only whether you passed. You can ask us to delete your data at any time.